Let Me Tell You About Kelly and Greg... When I first met Kelly, she and her husband, Greg, were literally driving to the attorney's office to sign their divorce papers when they decided to stop at my office! They were ready to end their marriage of 14 years. In fact, for some time, they had stayed together just for the kids. Does this sound familiar to you? There was much sleeping on the couch and in the spare bedroom. They were constantly battling over the smallest issue -- which only led to bigger issues. Threats and yelling were an almost everyday thing. It seemed as if they were stuck in a vicious cycle. They knew they needed to change things in their relationship...but they just didn't know how. I'm not going to try and convince you that I was able to undo years of fighting, struggling and disappointment in a day. But, with what they learned in my office that day, they decided to put their impending divorce "on hold." Within a few weeks, there was a dramatic transformation in their marriage...
Last week, Kelly called to Most marriage therapists are not trained to be marriage counselors. They receive their training in traditional, individual therapy, and add marital counseling to their practice... after the fact. In other words, most marriage therapists have little expertise in helping a troubled marriage. And, when they do offer marital counseling, they are, usually, applying outdated, ineffective strategies that were never intended to help truly troubled marriages. This is why the best marriage counselors see a success rate of only 20%. . . if a medical procedure was that risky. . . I know from experience, because I too was frustrated with such a low rate of success. I sincerely desired to help my clients to save their marriages. But, the techniques and strategies I learned in school seemed to be making things worse! Once I realized that "traditional" methods of marriage therapy don't work, I determined to find and create strategies, techniques and methods that do work. It led me to abandon much of the "old school" ideas about how to help troubled couples...and so should you! Please watch this video on why "Marital Therapy" can be destructive to your situation!
Before you can begin your journey toward saving your marriage, you need to stop buying into The Four Most Damaging Myths About Saving Your Marriage. Do you believe any of the following?
Anyone Is Capable of Impossible as it may seem, I have created techniques which transform relationships... even when only one person is trying! My typical client is a spouse that wants to save their relationship when their partner has already "given up." Most therapists work from the assumption that, if only one person wanted to work on the relationship, it was impossible to fix. I don't approach marriage crises this way. I approach them like an algebra equation. If one side of the equation is changed, the other side must change! Incredibly, my clients have achieved an 89.7% success rate. . . even if only one spouse starts the process! (Findings based on surveys. Individual results can vary.) Greg was still bent on a divorce, but Kelly still had hope. . . and took action. Eventually, He agreed to spend that hour with me, in person. . . leaving their divorce attorneys waiting. You may be wondering. . ."When Is Saving The Marriage Impossible?" I have witnessed relationships come back to life after affairs, bankruptcies, dishonesty, deception and mid-life crises,and just about any other roadblock. Couple after couple have proven that it is possible to change a relationship and rescue, just about, any marriage from the edge of destruction. These couples have not just avoided divorce. They have transformed the marriages into something wonderful. . . something better than they had dreamed possible. Anatomy Of A Marital Crisis No marriage crisis appears overnight. Rather, the crisis builds slowly over time. One person is, usually, caught completely off-guard. . . not realizing there even was a problem. The other claims that he or she is tired of trying and trying. . . with no change. . . and has "given up." If I had a dime for every time I was told, "I thought everything was fine, until my spouse asked for a divorce". . . Unfortunately, the "not knowing" has been translated into "not caring" by the dissatisfied partner and seems to provide proof (for someone looking for proof) that the marriage is over. And when people rate their priorities, their marital relationship always ranks in the top 3 or 4. But, according to research, couples spend on average less than 4 minutes per day talking about issues that do not include schedules and the kids. At this point, it is inevitable that issues will arise that create marital crisis. . .
The Stages Of A Crisis When the crisis is in full swing, it sometimes takes awhile for the other spouse to respond. But, I discovered you can use actually this fact to create a path back to wholeness. Too many other programs treat the way back to happiness as only one path. I believe there are 8 distinct paths and each must be dealt with completely differently. What is helpful at one stage can be destructive, or at least counterproductive, at another stage. These paths have been tested and retested, and proven very successful for my clients. This is not "pie-in-the-sky" theory. It is tried, tested, and re-tested. It is critical you know which stage you are in before you begin making changes. It is entirely possible to do the right thing at the wrong time and cause more problems. You need to know EXACTLY which stage of crisis you are facing. Only then, can you begin the healing process. Otherwise, it is probable you will inflict further damage on your relationship. The innocent beginnings of a crisis (neglect, lack of understanding, etc.) can quickly spin into a crisis that puts the entire marriage at risk. . . At this point, the trajectory of the relationship can become unpredictable. A marriage can fall apart in a million ways. But, the path back is predictable. A marriage only recovers in one, predictable way. . . there is only one path back. The specific steps on that path may vary (depending on the stage) but the "way back" is the same. Imagine a map on a trip. You may start from different places, different distances, but you are still going to take the roads that lead to the Interstate that leads to your destination. You only need to know the path from where you are. This is the emphasis of my I have isolated the path back from the verge of destruction. . . all of the way to full recovery of a marriage. You can't just take the relationship back to "where it used to be." This is not enough. Couples cannot simply get back to where they were when the marriage got in trouble. The marriage always had the beginnings of a crisis. Instead, it needs to get to a place where the marriage is insulated against any future crisis. Achieving an "average" marriage isn't enough. . . you want and need an exceptional marriage! It's not just about avoiding divorce. . . it's about creating the marriage relationship of your secret dreams. . . It's not enough to avoid divorce. Who wants to be in a "mediocre" marriage relationship? Most couples believe that their marital problems mean that they are destined to , at best, have an "okay" marriage. This could not be further from the truth. You don't have to settle for anything less than the marriage relationship of your dreams! In my experience, your current marriage crisis can be the catalyst for "a new beginning" that will make your marriage stronger and better than it has ever been. In fact, this is my true goal. I won't feel satisfied unless as many couples as possible are experiencing everything that they always expected from marriage. Recovery to average is not good enough. I have helped hundreds of couples to rescue and transform their marriages and, I want to help thousands more to create exceptional marriages! This is why I recently sat down and wrote a new Marriage Saving System. . . "Save The Marriage" As I said earlier in this letter, I was shocked to see that there were so many (virtually) useless "save your marriage" guides offered online. Unlike system, most of these "guides" are written by ghost writers that are hiding behind a pretty picture. I am a "real, live" person that you can actually contact (see the bottom of this page). And, the guides written by actual professionals are, for the most part, based on tired, old and ineffective "traditional" theories of counseling that only achieve 20% effectiveness. . . . when used in person, in a therapist’s office! I felt as if I had to make available the unique, different and (most importantly) effective secrets that I had discovered in my practice. My goal is to save as many marriages as possible. Chances are, you will probably not have the opportunity to visit me, in person. But, I can still provide you with the information and the assistance you need to really start saving your marriage. . . through Save The Marriage. Together, through the Save The Marriage System , we can save your marriage! Save The Marriage will give you an understanding of what happened to your marriage, how to save it, and how to start creating the marriage of your dreams. You will benefit from my, nearly, twenty years of working with clients, in person, and literally, thousands of couples in various settings. Instead, I have made the ideas and information readable and easily understood. No "psycho
-babble" here, just the facts, ideas, and actions you need to save your marriage. I will tell you what went wrong, what to do to change it, and how to do it. A small sample of what others have said about this system...
What Others Are Saying: "A terrific resource..." "I have been reading the first few sections and
am very relieved to find such a terrific resource... ...It really fits with the direction I've been
taking, personally and with clients." (Actual customer comments. NOTE: Results may vary.)
Just Some Of What You'll Discover...
What you have seen in this letter is only a small fraction of what you will find in this book. This powerful Save The Marriage System has several modules, all working together to help you save your marriage, from beginning to end. Each builds on the other!
Because this system is only offered in an electronic, downloadable format, you can begin your journey of marital happiness and fulfillment immediately. . . even if it's 2 AM in the morning! Plus, you never have to worry about facing the lady at the register in the book store. Your purchase is in total privacy and your personal copy of this powerful system will be downloaded to your computer in less than 2 minutes! And, because you don't have to pay for printing or shipping, I can charge you significantly less than I would for a "hard copy" version of this system. But you need to ACT NOW! Let me tell you why you need to act now: The longer you go without taking action, the lower your chances to save your marriage. You see, marriages in crisis are not static. If they are not improving, they are worsening. Only appropriate action can reverse this. Please, take action now! You can think about it like a commercial: Cost of an hour of therapy: $60 to $150 (multiply that times 100, the number of sessions in 2 years of therapy ($6,000 to $15,000 total). Cost of an average divorce: $30,000 (not to mention the ongoing losses and emotional toil). Cost of a great marriage: PRICELESS! Let me tell you what is included in the Save The Marriage System: Included...
Module 1: The 'Top Five Things NOT To Do When This is the starting point in the process, so that you do
not continue to do damage to your chances. Your "natural" reactions during this critical stage of
your marriage crisis are, usually, wrong. This report will help you to avoid the top 5 mistakes
that most people make in this situation. Making the wrong decision during this stage could make
things worse...much worse!
Module 2: Quick-Start Guide To Saving Your Marriage I have taken my Stage Of Crisis Diagnosis and
converted it into a very powerful module that will help you to establish EXACTLY which stage of crisis your marriage is currently in. It will then prescribe a path to recovery based on that particular stage.
This report will make your efforts immediately effective! This will be the next stop in your marriage recovery, so
that you have a “roadmap” to use in your immediate actions.
Module 3: Save The Marriage Core Component This is the core of the system. You will find section after
section telling you the real secret of marriage, what gets in the way, and how to move your marriage toward what you want. The results of my research, experiments and testing are here
for you to discover. All you have to do is read, complete the exercises, and apply it to your marriage. The rest takes care of itself! This is the third module because the first module gets you out
of harm’s way, the second module gets you moving toward recover, then this module helps you understand why your
marriage was failing and treats the root cause, not just the symptoms.
These four modules create the powerful Save The Marriage System. It is a complete path to recovering and saving your marriage, regardless of the situation now. You can only get the modules as a unit, since each builds on the other, creating a synergy that will overcome difficulties you may be having. The system is designed to change your understanding of marriage , and especially your understanding of the problems. Here’s why: if you just keep thinking about things the way you have, you will only stay where you have been -- stuck and going down! Albert Einstein said “We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” Let me help you change your thinking and save your marriage! And, For A VERY LIMITED Time, I Am Including These Bonuses:
Bonus 1: Coping With A MidLife Marriage Crisis Aud A MidLife Crisis can become a Marriage Crisis. In this audio, I cover the truth behind a mid-life crisis (it has nothing to do
with the stereotypes), and how to avoid the pitfalls of a crisis. If you are in the midst of a mid-life crisis yourself, you need
to listen. If your spouse is in the midst of a mid-life crisis, you definitely need to listen! The recording is in mp3 format, so you can listen on your
computer, transfer it to an IPod, IPhone, or any other mp3
player. If your CD player will allow, you can even burn it to a CD and take it with you!
Bonus 2: Recovering From An Affair Aud One of the most damaging events for a marriage is an affair.
Yet, it is possible to not only recover from an affair, but actually strengthen your relationship because of an affair!
But only if you understand the affair, and know how to recover from it. This audio will tell you why it happened, how to deal with it,
and even prevent it from ever happening again. If you have had an affair, you need to listen. If you are trying to recover
from a spouse’s affair, you need to listen. And if you want to keep an affair from ever happening, you definitely need to listen!
The recording is in mp3 format, so you can listen on your computer, transfer it to an
IPod, IPhone, or any other mp3 player. If your CD player will allow, you can even burn it to a CD and take it with you!
Bonus 3: 5 Rules For Fair Fighting Report This report is designed to give you instant rules for making an
argument fair. For each finger on your hand, there is a rule. They are easy to remember, clear, and concise. But if you use them, I promise they will keep an argument from
getting out-of-hand and destructive. My System will give you some alternatives to arguing, but when you
do find yourself in a conflict, these rules can literally save your relationship from the destruction of unfair fighting.
Well, that’s the deal! You get the Save The Marriage System, the bonus audios, a bonus set of rules for fair fighting, and a complete bonus ebook! If I haven’t managed to convince you by now, it is time for me to give up! If this is not right for you, then please, move on. But, if you are really ready to take action, I can give you the tools you need! Please, take action and Save Your Marriage! Your total (no hidden charges) investment in the future of your marriage is only $47.00!
Here's my offer: Try the secrets in the Save The Marriage System. Then, at your leisure , utilize its secrets to save and transform your marriage. If you are not absolutely thrilled with the dramatic improvements in your marriage, just let me know and I'll promptly and courteously refund 100% of your money - with no questions asked. . . for an entire 60 days! Your only requirement is to use the material for a full 30 days, just to see the power of the simple secrets. That’s it! Give it your best shot, then I will offer you a. . . 100% Unconditional 60-Day If, for any reason (or no reason at all), you decide this book hasn't transformed your marriage. . . I will refund every penny you paid. Furthermore, I'll even let you keep the system (and the bonuses) for your trouble! So, as you can see, you will be making your marriage everything you ever desired. . . at my risk. . . not yours! This system has been described as one of the most radical and important sources of relationship saving strategies and techniques ever written.
How To Get The Save The
Your order is completely private and discreet. We NEVER share or sell our customer's information with ANYONE...EVER! Your order is processed through our secure shopping cart and server systems and your financial information is passed along in an encrypted and totally secure manner.
Getting your hands on the complete system is simple and direct: After clicking the purchase link, you will be taken to a SSL (Secured-Socket Layer) Protected page that requires a small amount of information. This page is hosted by Clickbank, the safest payment processing company on the internet. (In fact, we will never even see your payment information.) Clickbank can accept all major credit cards or can access a Paypal account. After the purchase is confirmed, you will be automatically sent to a special page I set up to allow you to download your Save The Marriage System, information and recordings for IMMEDIATE ACCESS. That’s right. You can start the process, and in less than 10 minutes, you will be reading the information you need to start saving your marriage, regardless of what time it is, day or night, and regardless of where in the world you are located. Think about it: in less than an hour you can have your strategy in place on how to save your marriage. Don’t wait another second. It is time to begin to save your marriage. My powerful information will give you the exclusive information you need to begin saving your marriage THIS SECOND! The time for action is now. . . I have created the resources you need to save your marriage. I have made it so that you can access the information anywhere in the world, any time of the day or night. I have guaranteed that it will work. But the final action is yours. Only you can decide if your marriage is worth the small amount of effort necessary to turn it around. If you are ready to save your marriage, CLICK HERE! Faithfully,
P.S. You may have skipped right to this point. If so, here's the offer in a nutshell. You get your own personal copy of Save The Marriage System that is 100% guaranteed to help save your marriage. . . starting within the next few minutes. Plus... If you order now, you will also receive the “Quick-Start Guide To Saving Your Marriage” module. Plus...I will also give you the “Top Five Things NOT To Do When Your Partner Wants Out!” module. Plus...You will receive my powerful module, “Dealing With Anger And Resentment.” Plus...By ordering now, you will get my newest module, “Down-N-Dirty Guide.” Plus...You get the bonus audios, “Deaing with a MidLife Marriage Crisis” and “Recovering From An Affair.” Plus...I will give you 5 Rules For Fair Fighting to help you get through conflicts. Plus...For a short time, you get the ebook, “Change of Heart” at no extra charge! And. . . if you order during this limited-time offer, you receive all of the above for only
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